If I’m more comfortable holding a pen in my hands while I speak, is that OK?
The following comes from TJ Walker’s upcoming book “The Wisdom of Your Audience”. Consistently, the worst advice speakers and presenters get, comes from everyone who is NOT your audience. The following gives examples of some of the WORST advice people are often given. It is followed by the advice of your audience. Listen to them. They are your true judge and jury.
If I’m more comfortable holding a pen in my hands while I speak, is that OK?
Your Speech Coach: “Yes, it’s OK to hold a pen, or you can put one hand in your pocket.”
Your Self-Esteem Coach: “If it makes you feel better than it’s OK. Go ahead and hold a pen or a lucky rabbit’s foot.”
You: “I don’t know what to do with my hands, so I’m more comfortable holding a pen while I speak.”
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Your audience: “Huh! Why would you hold a pen? Are you planning on spontaneously saying something so brilliant that you need a pen to write down your own quote while you speak? Are you a pompous a#$? If you’re going to hold a pen, why not a broom or a rake? Better yet, why not leave the toys on the table and just talk to us—hands-free?”
April 18th, 2008 at 6:31 pm
While there is a lot worse things you can do while presenting, the pen should always be put down when not writing on the flip chart or white board. The pen can draw attention away from your topic. In addition, if you start fiddling with it or playing with the cap, it’s almost certain to grab our eye and distract from your presentation.
Thanks for the post TJ